a question for women and any obgyn

[smoothcriminal]

i apologise in advance if this is an inappropriate post but i have had great help off people hear regarding my health. i recently got married and due to traditions it was arranged pretty much.. she is pretty and caring.. she is about 5ft 1ins tall and very slight build. she has quite bearing hips and a chest size of around 32b. i have noticed she has a lot of hair growth for a woman. i have been with women in the past and never experienced as much growth as this - upper lip, nipples, chest, stomach, large amounts of pubic, back and legs up to buttocks.

so my 1st question is this. is this quite normal. she is asian of indian descent. is waxing the best option as she doesnt want to shave. she does use removal creams but the hair grows back quicker (even quicker than mine)!

my next q is related to sexual health. i am her 1st partner. i have used all the techniques that i am aware of to help stimulate her - oral, caressing. massage and others while having sex such as adjusting positions so that the upper wall and entrance is being stimulated. she does get very aroused. however after penetration she soon loses feeling in her vagina. i have never experienced this before either. she still stays aroused however. i am always gentle and dont rush anything.

again sorry if the q is in the wrong place. i get a feeling that both problems might be related like hormonal imbalance. she does not suffer from any skin problems at all but she does have stomach issues like ibs.

is there any other recommended sites i can ask. she is till over in india so seing an obgyn is not pos at mo.

[shelley]

It pretty much depends on genetics first how hairy we are, so find out if her parents, particularly her mother, was hairy too, and if she was hairy as a chiild. If the hair growth is a new thing then it's possibly due to a diet full of estrogenic chemicals, so start analyzing what she's eating and drinking and see if any are on the list of estrogenic foods (Google for list). If she has NO other symptoms then it could be this is simply how she's wired.

As for the sexual issue, I'm not sure I understand what you're saying. If she feels nothing during coitus, it could be she's blocking it out mentally, or she needs to do some work on her digestion and/or spine to free up the nerves and muscles there. Lots of women don't know that they should tighten up their groin muscles in order to enjoy coitus, they hear about being relaxed and think they should relax the sex muscles - wrong! Tension is bliss when it comes to sexual arousal!